Divorce with a Pen, Not a Sword: A Practical Guide and Business Approach to Communicating, Negotiating, and Drafting a Friendly Divorce. (Paperback)
Think about famous divorce cases that hit the headlines. Yes, she got millions of dollars. But the lawyers also got millions of dollars. Sure, the husband paid both his and her legal fees, but every dollar that went to the attorneys and the accountants, appraisers, and other expert witnesses, was a dollar gone from the marital pot. What if, instead of the soap opera court litigated divorce, wife had communicated and negotiated with husband for a business partnership dissolution? 1.Both parties would have more money. 2.There would be less acrimony, less stain on everyone, including the kids. In order to successfully divorce with a business approach, you need: 1.An attitude adjustment from divorce to dissolution, from soap opera to business, from win-lose to win-win. 2.Business oriented attorneys and advisers. 3.A basic understanding of business, finance, and accounting. 4.Knowledge of both business and inter-personal communication techniques. 5.Contracts and agreements that pass muster business-wise in that they are clear, easily enforceable, and even-handed. That's what "Divorce with a Pen, Not a Sword" advocates and teaches- with practical advice, war stories, and step by step how-to's. However, before you can be successful in divorcing with a pen instead of a sword, energy must be considered. Look again at those high profile divorce cases. There are lots of subconscious programs at work controlling the behavior of both husband and wife. Otherwise, those divorces would have been a matter of course, easy, no acrimony. What causes them to escalate into such battles? The money you say. If it were only a matter of the money, there would be compromises. She wants $5,000,000 and the cocker spaniel; he wants to pay only $500,000, but will agree to pay $3,000,000 and allow doggie visitations. No. It's not the money. There are feelings of abandonment, anger, revenge, and getting even. The reactions to such feelings lead to hostility and litigation, escalations, and refusals to compromise so that the only solution is what a judge, an outsider, ultimately decides. "Divorce with a Pen, Not a Sword", deals with those subconscious programs- understanding and setting them aside, allowing a business approach to work for both parties. Leatrice discovered early on in her law practice of minding other people's business that she could intuit solutions for her Clients. She would just "know" the most helpful approaches and words to help her Clients. She began to focus on these feelings. She began to realize that she was feeling energy. Just as everyone feels better with some people than with others, better in some places than in others. People and places have an energy to them which can be felt. With good feeling energy comes intuition. With good feeling energy comes acceptance of Law of Attraction as promoted by such films as "The Secret" and "What the Bleep Do We Know?" With good feeling energy comes awareness of the Higher Force Energies inside everyone that inspire and empower. "Divorce with a Pen, Not a Sword" is based on the premise that there is a Higher Force Energy within every person that can be deliberately accessed: 1.To inspire the deliberate attraction of what is wanted, rather than just defaulting to what is not wanted. 2.To empower the breaking free of subconscious programs that dictate litigation instead of business, war instead of peace. Check out Leatrice's website, www.SeeMovement.com ("See"="Successful energy empowerment"). "Divorce with a Pen, Not a Sword" is a marriage of business principles and energy psychology. It promotes individual access to Higher Force Energies to enlighten and empower, to motivate and inspire, and to successfully end or re-define marriage in peace and harmony- by taking a business approach to divorce: Negotiation, partnership dissolution, communication, and peace, rather than litigation and war- a divorce with a pen, not a sword.
"Divorce with a Pen, Not a Sword" by Leatrice Lynne Latts, JD, CPA, is like her law practice: Minding other people's business for more than 35 years (law is a great license for that). 1.In the early days, many people came to her seeking advice about troublesome marriages. Although she was not a family law lawyer, Leatrice often realized there was something missing in the advice these people were receiving. Business issues were often missed or ignored. 2.Over the years, Leatrice's law practice expanded to business and financial consulting. She was able to incorporate the experience she had received interacting with clients and businesses as a CPA. 3.She expanded her word-smithing abilities: Contracts so clear that the other side doesn't feel the need to take them to their attorney; Memorializing, as a "ghost writer", the thoughts, positions, negotiations, even speeches, and persuasions that her Clients wanted to communicate to others. 4.She focused on inter-personal communication techniques: "I" messages versus "you" messages; negotiation versus power plays; positions versus value judgments; role playing; avoiding rescue trips; finding the silver linings. 5.She employed business communication principles: Deal points versus negotiating points; good guy/ bad guy games; serving as a sounding board; keeping the doors open. 6.Gradually, Leatrice discovered her sensitivity to energy and her intuitive knowing how to help her Clients. She became a "path of least resistance", channeling the words and solutions that her Clients were meant to hear. 7.One of the attractions for Leatrice in her practice was the longevity of her relationships with her Clients- in many cases over 25 years. That gave her the opportunity to use her intuition and serve as energy psychologist; to be a consultant and business and personal coach; to focus on motivation and positive thinking; and to build on the positive results. Her Clients' success is the evidence of the accuracy of her intuition and the effectiveness of her coaching and counseling. Check out www.SeeMovement.com, ("See" = "Successful energy empowerment") for some of the success stories. "Divorce with a Pen, Not a Sword" is a combination of energy psychology and the principles of business and finance. It is coaching in book form. Leatrice treats the reader like one of her Clients, turning divorce into a private negotiated partnership dissolution instead of a soap opera court battle.